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TIRED OF BEING HELD BACK
I feel like there are unseen forces at work preventing me from leaving my current home and finding a new one. I am in the process of ending a very long term marriage that hasn't been happy for a long time, but the longer it takes for me to find somewhere else to live, the more I become afraid of doing so. Why is this happening? I can't stay where I am anymore as too much water has gone under the bridge and I don't want the friendship that still exists to turn into hatred. Is there something more I can do than what I already have to move things along, or should I just sit and wait for the perfect place to materialise? Have already looked at two places that were fizzers, so hence my frustration :)
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Permalink Reply by Micheal on -
I like to think that if there are unseen forces stopping us from finding or achieving something,then in good hands we are,and thus should trust........even when no apparent reason to do so.Keep being persistant on finding a new home,being stopped from getting house....doesnt nessesarily mean yul never get one,perhaps more of time and place,rememeber good things take time.....the best things even longer!
I feel if you wish to move things things along a little faster,then more comminication is to be achieved on a freindship level with your ex partner,be sure most things you will be leaving behind is left in peace and clarity.Rememeber as your partner he still knows when your troubled,and prefers to be told rather than guessing.Tend also to other family in this circle,be clear on intention and should be sure they know not all ties will be lost when the move is achieved.
It may perhaps takle more than five houses looked at before the perfect one for you arises,if you feel this time to leangthy then another abode between should be considered,.......plenty of water under the bridge also means stability underneath that cannot be seen,i feel no depth of hatred can shake this unseen foundation,and in fact should honoured with clarity on how you feel.A freindship formed from a marriadge breakup is rarer than you think,and perhaps should be givin a little credit,Let the dust settle a little more before underestimating a new friendship found.
It is interesting hear you say "the longer it takes for me to find somewhere else to live, the more I become afraid of doing so"DONT BE AFRAID! If you have asked for something in your life and have recieved no reply......i find the best thing to do is wait.Chances are the answer isnt as far away as one thinks.
Good luck with finding a your new home my freind.
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Permalink Reply by Cris on -
Thanks so much Michael. What you say makes a great deal of sense. The decision to end my marriage has been a hard-reached one, but I knew it had to be something we both accepted rather than just me. We've always been friends, but romantically, things died years ago and we've been keeping up a charade ever since. But I want us to keep this friendship going rather than leave on a bad note, and yes I agree that friendship from a marriage breakdown is rare. As I said to my husband a couple of weeks ago: "maybe we can inspire others who separate to try and do the same so they don't suffer resentment for years afterwards". I have talked to our daughter quite often to make sure she's okay with everything, and my mother in law also wants to keep in touch with me afterwards. I'm in the process of mending the rift between my own parents and feel that once the dust has settled, things will improve there also. I refuse to run my husband down as there's no reason to, even when frustration rules. I've looked at four houses so far (two more since posting this) so maybe one or two to go, eh? Thanks again :)))
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